Category: LIFE LESSONS

25 life lessons in 25 years

Couple days ago I had my 26th birthday. One step closer to 30, I have dual feelings about this. One part is quite scared of getting older (Quite common fear. No one wants to get older, that means closer to the end of this life. Mainly, all fears, in the end, lead to one – fear of death, but this can be another subject and I am not going into it at the moment), but the other part has this indescribable feeling that the best moments are just ahead. All thought, I have to mention that I look forward to my future, but I am not “living in it”, I try to live my life like it goes. At this moment, because it is really the only time we have. We can be joyful and happy if we have a sensation of consciousness for the present moment.

So here I am my new age, I welcome you with an open mind, arms and heart.

In the list below you can see some of the things I have learned. I have stories and experiences behind all of them and I could continue this list for a while, but let’s stick to 25 for now. Maybe you will find associations with yourself and your life path or you may find something useful even without your own experience. If you wish, in the comment section, you can share your life lessons, would be interesting and useful to hear from you, dear reader.

So, here are my 26 life lessons:

  • Health is the most precious “thing” you can have. Without that, nothing else really matters.
  • Be yourself. It is your life and you live by your rules. Don’t let anyone or anything to take over. Some may like you, some won’t, but in the end…you are the one who tells your own story, others can choose to listen or to skip it. You should be happy and proud, so write and tell the best damn story you can imagine!
  • Life really is too short to try to please everyone. Just be you, do what you love with your best intention. The right people will come along the way and will accept and like you as you are.
  • Don’t compare yourself to others. But if you want to do that, compare to yourself. You are the only person you should compete with.
  • Don’t be too self-critical and perfectionist, in this way your mind-blowing ideas will go down the toilet even before they will have the opportunity to get out your head and rise. Have an idea, go for it, work for it, afterward you can let your criticism and perfectionism to take over a bit and smooth out unevenness.
  • Listen to constructive criticism. Listen. Analyse. Learn from it. Do better.
  • Your family are the closest people you will ever have, don’t let some small issues get in the way and destroy those close ties. Spend some quality time with your parents, you are not the only one who is getting older.
  • Your childhood friends, after you all have “grown up”, won’t have as much time as before. New duties, responsibilities and generally speaking – life. But even if you’ll meet quite rare, if it’s from the heart, you all will manage to maintain that wonderful friendship. Just need to put a bit of effort from both sides, same as in a romantic relationship.
  • Spend your time with people with whom you have useful, interesting, positive and fun times. People that help your own growth (consciously and unconsciously).
  • When you meet people, be more interested in who they are, not what they have or what they do. Pay attention not only to what they are saying but as well how they are telling their stories, sometimes it may say more about them than their words. (body language, etc.)
  • You shouldn’t feel guilty if someone loves you but you don’t feel the same. You can give earned respect, kindness, affection…but you can’t require your heart to love someone and you shouldn’t even try. It knows better.
  • Don’t sign anything if you haven’t read it properly. Twice. Always get your duplicate.
  • Don’t buy things at unknown, “fishy” online shops. Possibilities are – it’s a fraud.
  • Save some money. Life is unpredictable, there can come times when you will need some extra money, so it’s always good if you have your savings and no need to borrow or stress yourself till bones to figure out how to get it.
  • Learn from your mistakes. First time – can happen, we are human beings, errors happen. The second time, well, you should take it into consideration that you’re doing something in the way that’s not suitable for the thing you’re trying to do. Third time – defenatly, seems like you won’t go far doing that same sh*t all over again. Try out a different way. Now!
  • Don’t “play with fire” unless you know that you will manage to deal and live with “burned parts” if something goes wrong.
  • Nothing comes for free, everything has a price in one way or another. You have the choice and the challenge to figure out what are you willing to pay.
  • Don’t fu*k up your mind and body with million diets and unreasonable fasting. It is not worth it. But if you do it – do it wisely and healthy. Make it as your lifestyle choice, not a short-term campaign.
  • Learn to love yourself even more. Take care of your body, mind, and soul. No one else will do that for you. You will need all three to live thriving and fulfilling life.
  • Do what you like and love. That will give you the power to keep on going even in though and rough times.
  • Traveling on your own and living abroad is one of the best ways how to step out of your comfort zone, get to know different cultures, people, learn some useful lifehacks and new things, expand your horizons, it leads to self-growth, etc.
  • More useful, pleasurable and meaningful are the amazing moments you have throughout the years and the people you spent that time with, not the things you own or crave for.
  • Listen more to your intuition and inner self. It knows better.
  • Stay positive and kind. At least most of the time. There can’t be too much positivity and kindness because there is already enough of negativity, cruelty, sadness, and anger.
  • You have the choice and power. This is your life. Live the best of it by being the best of you. But keep as well in mind that there is something higher, we can’t control our lives to a 100%, so at moments, let it be, accept it, be spontaneous, go with the flow. Enjoy! The worst and the best – it’s all life.
  • And just one more, because I’m already with one foot into 26. Spend your time wisely. Learn new things. Read books. Do regular physical activities. Go to courses, classes. Study. Have your hobbies. Take long walks in nature. Watch interesting and instructive movies. Listen to great podcasts. Learn how to play a musical instrument. Learn languages. So on and on. Sometimes it is OK to watch a dumb comedy, get drunk with friends (right place, right time) or lay in bed, watching TV or listening to music and doing nothing all day long, just don’t make these things as your daily (weekend) routine. You’ll thank yourself later.

What are your life lessons?

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Routine is killing the creative self

Don’t let yourself, anyone else or anything to destroy your creativity. Your inner creative child has been with you since your birth and still is, maybe she’s a bit lost at moments, but she never leaves you. You just need to let express herself.

There are moments in life when routine takes over. Everything is ticking like clock. Second by second, minute by minute and it goes like that in the same direction over and over again…after a while, you realize that hours, days, weeks, months or even years have passed and then the thought wanders around your mind – where did the time fly?

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”

-Steve Jobs

It didn’t fly anywhere. Time has passed and it will continue to go, as usual, it is you. You chose to spend your time in ways that you didn’t even notice and distinguish the miraculous existence of each day. You chose to switch on your own autopilot mode. In some moments it can be a huge relief but if you are living like that every single day, it is not a life, it is your own created disguised hell with beautiful props. There is no purpose to live like that. Every single day, when it’s over, makes your life a bit shorter. Would you like to live forever? I wouldn’t because the beauty of life is the point that we know – we are not immortal. Every day has been given to you, that you can make the best out of it. It is up to you, it’s your decision. If you would live forever, what would be the point after waking up even get out of the bed? But would you really like to spend eternity through vegetation? It would be constant boredom and silent, never-ending suffering. Even if it’s not endlessness, why would you want to spend your life like that…

Real life. Yes, understandable, you have your responsibilities, duties, attachments and so on, so you put aside, for some time, the things you love for those you have to do. Nothing wrong with that, it’s life, but remember that it will always be like that, there won’t be an any better time to start doing the things your heart beats faster for because there will always be circumstances that won’t match with your dreams or expectations for your own life. There is only one way. Get a grip, do what you have to do also including things you love with your best intention. You have to express yourself, let that inner child take over, not entirely but give her some discretion.

Otherwise, your time will pass by like a barely noticeable summer breeze and routine will kill your creative self.

A little short film about this subject as well for you, guys 🙂

P.S. I’m not against education system, at least not in general, in this film my focus is more on the will to be unique, stick with own beliefs and do not take on the pressure of society.

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Slow down

Living your dream, living every single day to the fullest, being the best version of yourself, helping others, doing what you’re passionate about, working hard…yes, it is great and you should do that, but…there is always a little “but” somewhere, while doing that, don’t forget to enjoy the moment, to be where you are at this exact moment, to take a deep breath and feel the gratitude for what you already have, that comes in and out with your breath.

It is good to work towards your goals, dreams, and life you want to see, but at the same time, it is necessary to embrace the moment. Feel the love that it gives to you.

“Racing isn’t about how long it takes you to get from the start to the finish, it’s the adventure you have along the way, the people you meet, and the unique moments you share.”

-Simon Wheatcroft

I admire and respect people who strive to achieve their goals and do their utmost to achieve them, however, it is important not to become obsessed with it, and in times not to take it so seriously and be where you are right now.

Sometimes, even though, most of the times I like what I do, I have to slow myself down, because every now and then I caught myself with too many thoughts, like, what I should do, what would be the best for me and others, what can I improve etc, and then I realize, that in this way I am not really living and enjoying my life to it’s fullest. It’s impossible to be truly happy unless you live in present. Now I have learned to notice and recognize the triggers and return myself to the present moment.

Take time to see your surroundings, enjoy the time with people who care about you and you care about them. Accept and spread love, because in the end of the story, the most valuable “things” in your life will be the moments, which you spent with your loved ones, those moments that taught you a lot, those passionate moments in which your heart began to beat faster…the moments in which you enjoyed the little things of life and enjoyed that particular moment. Not how much money you earned, how many books you wrote, how many countries you visited, what kind of house you bought and newest gadgets and so on. It’s not about things or numbers, it is about the journey of life and the feelings along the way.

“The moment we stop fighting it, the moment we embrace what we feel for one another, will be the moment we finally start living.”

– Romeo B. Cameron

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Perception

The right perception for the right way of living life is your own. Almost everything can be acceptable and adaptable unless you violate the borders by damaging, distorting or destroying other living beings life.

You can choose to help others in that way you will help yourself as well. In life works quid pro quo. It is intentional or unintentional action driven principle. Works well for you (your inner self), if it is without planned action (without intent to gain), by the best intentions.

You can look from down to up and see all your possibilities or from up to down.

Your choice.

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