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Couple days ago I had my 26th birthday. One step closer to 30, I have dual feelings about this. One part is quite scared of getting older (Quite common fear. No one wants to get older, that means closer to the end of this life. Mainly, all fears, in the end, lead to one – fear of death, but this can be another subject and I am not going into it at the moment), but the other part has this indescribable feeling that the best moments are just ahead. All thought, I have to mention that I look forward to my future, but I am not “living in it”, I try to live my life like it goes. At this moment, because it is really the only time we have. We can be joyful and happy if we have a sensation of consciousness for the present moment.
So here I am my new age, I welcome you with an open mind, arms and heart.
In the list below you can see some of the things I have learned. I have stories and experiences behind all of them and I could continue this list for a while, but let’s stick to 25 for now. Maybe you will find associations with yourself and your life path or you may find something useful even without your own experience. If you wish, in the comment section, you can share your life lessons, would be interesting and useful to hear from you, dear reader.
So, here are my 26 life lessons:
- Health is the most precious “thing” you can have. Without that, nothing else really matters.
- Be yourself. It is your life and you live by your rules. Don’t let anyone or anything to take over. Some may like you, some won’t, but in the end…you are the one who tells your own story, others can choose to listen or to skip it. You should be happy and proud, so write and tell the best damn story you can imagine!
- Life really is too short to try to please everyone. Just be you, do what you love with your best intention. The right people will come along the way and will accept and like you as you are.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. But if you want to do that, compare to yourself. You are the only person you should compete with.
- Don’t be too self-critical and perfectionist, in this way your mind-blowing ideas will go down the toilet even before they will have the opportunity to get out your head and rise. Have an idea, go for it, work for it, afterward you can let your criticism and perfectionism to take over a bit and smooth out unevenness.
- Listen to constructive criticism. Listen. Analyse. Learn from it. Do better.
- Your family are the closest people you will ever have, don’t let some small issues get in the way and destroy those close ties. Spend some quality time with your parents, you are not the only one who is getting older.
- Your childhood friends, after you all have “grown up”, won’t have as much time as before. New duties, responsibilities and generally speaking – life. But even if you’ll meet quite rare, if it’s from the heart, you all will manage to maintain that wonderful friendship. Just need to put a bit of effort from both sides, same as in a romantic relationship.
- Spend your time with people with whom you have useful, interesting, positive and fun times. People that help your own growth (consciously and unconsciously).
- When you meet people, be more interested in who they are, not what they have or what they do. Pay attention not only to what they are saying but as well how they are telling their stories, sometimes it may say more about them than their words. (body language, etc.)
- You shouldn’t feel guilty if someone loves you but you don’t feel the same. You can give earned respect, kindness, affection…but you can’t require your heart to love someone and you shouldn’t even try. It knows better.
- Don’t sign anything if you haven’t read it properly. Twice. Always get your duplicate.
- Don’t buy things at unknown, “fishy” online shops. Possibilities are – it’s a fraud.
- Save some money. Life is unpredictable, there can come times when you will need some extra money, so it’s always good if you have your savings and no need to borrow or stress yourself till bones to figure out how to get it.
- Learn from your mistakes. First time – can happen, we are human beings, errors happen. The second time, well, you should take it into consideration that you’re doing something in the way that’s not suitable for the thing you’re trying to do. Third time – defenatly, seems like you won’t go far doing that same sh*t all over again. Try out a different way. Now!
- Don’t “play with fire” unless you know that you will manage to deal and live with “burned parts” if something goes wrong.
- Nothing comes for free, everything has a price in one way or another. You have the choice and the challenge to figure out what are you willing to pay.
- Don’t fu*k up your mind and body with million diets and unreasonable fasting. It is not worth it. But if you do it – do it wisely and healthy. Make it as your lifestyle choice, not a short-term campaign.
- Learn to love yourself even more. Take care of your body, mind, and soul. No one else will do that for you. You will need all three to live thriving and fulfilling life.
- Do what you like and love. That will give you the power to keep on going even in though and rough times.
- Traveling on your own and living abroad is one of the best ways how to step out of your comfort zone, get to know different cultures, people, learn some useful lifehacks and new things, expand your horizons, it leads to self-growth, etc.
- More useful, pleasurable and meaningful are the amazing moments you have throughout the years and the people you spent that time with, not the things you own or crave for.
- Listen more to your intuition and inner self. It knows better.
- Stay positive and kind. At least most of the time. There can’t be too much positivity and kindness because there is already enough of negativity, cruelty, sadness, and anger.
- You have the choice and power. This is your life. Live the best of it by being the best of you. But keep as well in mind that there is something higher, we can’t control our lives to a 100%, so at moments, let it be, accept it, be spontaneous, go with the flow. Enjoy! The worst and the best – it’s all life.
- And just one more, because I’m already with one foot into 26. Spend your time wisely. Learn new things. Read books. Do regular physical activities. Go to courses, classes. Study. Have your hobbies. Take long walks in nature. Watch interesting and instructive movies. Listen to great podcasts. Learn how to play a musical instrument. Learn languages. So on and on. Sometimes it is OK to watch a dumb comedy, get drunk with friends (right place, right time) or lay in bed, watching TV or listening to music and doing nothing all day long, just don’t make these things as your daily (weekend) routine. You’ll thank yourself later.
What are your life lessons?